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After reading your email, I realize that I had never been specific in what I want either. In fact after several relationships, some that I thought were good, including my marriage of 26 years before my husband died, I decided that I wasn’t going to look anymore, that I was fine, that I didn’t need to be in a relationship.

Your list is so beautiful, meticulous, and thoughtful. You have done the work to know yourself.

I am a work in progress and making strides in leaps and bounds. Maybe because I am alone, and I am not trying to make a relationship work so I can work on myself.

I was an enabler, I would take on others problems and try to make them better. I would sacrifice my happiness and what I wanted to make sure they still loved me.

There is so much more that I have figured out and I am so happy that I have and can move forward.

It’s just I didn’t think I would have a chance to move ahead with someone. I think I am afraid if I start a new relationship I will lose myself, that I finally found, again.

I now think if I do the work, make the list, stick to the list, there is hope that I too will find that someone.

If I don’t find that person, that’s okay too. At least I will not be with someone that is a “condemned wasteland”.

Thank you for sharing your very personal and very insightful list.

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"LOVE IS BLIND"

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You’ve described the perfect person! It’s so important to know what you want and need from a partner or even just a friend. ♥️ I wish you all the best luck finding your perfect person. ♥️ Never settle for less than what you deserve!

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A book you might like, Every Day Spirit, by Mary Davis

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