I agree. The media works so hard to make brides, mothers of the brides and mothers of the grooms believe the bigger (more expensive) the better. I feel I am allowed to blame it on the women because I am one.
I was so relieved when my son and DIL, who married in DC where you need no witnesses, did exactly as they wanted. After obtaining their license, they when to the Smithsonian Museum of Natural History, stood in front of their favorite exhibit and declared themselves husband and wife. I think they took a selfie.
Six months later they had a gathering in a local park for immediate family and best friends, catered by Subway. DIL wore my wedding dress. Everyone else dressed nice. Pictures were taken by attendees. No stress, just fun.
Their favorite exhibit is that of an extinct fish. I can't remember the name.
See how I answered this 10 days late? Special education school life is crazy this time of year, as you probably know. I have to make time to check my personal email.
I'll have to protest - the best wedding ever was my friends' - they approached us (wife and I) about a trip to Hong Kong over Christmas/New Years a (large) number of years back - oh yes we were in!
On the flight over they told us that they had arranged to get married in HK (civil ceremony) and we were the witnesses! And that is what happened.
They just couldn't justify the cost of a wedding with 'x' persons attending most of whom they hardly knew. The wedding announcement was mailed from HK to the potential invitee list and because no one was there no one got their knickers in a twist because no one got invited/attended - brilliant!
Personally we (wife and I) self-catered our wedding at my wife's parent place -they had a 1 acre property out in the country - as far as I was concerned a good time was had by all. And that happened 35+ years ago.
My advice to all the younger folks heading for nuptials (rarely heeded) - Elope!
Keep the cash and spend it on yourselves, down payment on a home, a trip , retirement savings - you pick - do not feed the wedding industry monster! A few folks will be miffed for a short while but the ones who truly care about you will accept your decision - the ones who don't ... well maybe ... they should fall off the list.
I agree. The media works so hard to make brides, mothers of the brides and mothers of the grooms believe the bigger (more expensive) the better. I feel I am allowed to blame it on the women because I am one.
I was so relieved when my son and DIL, who married in DC where you need no witnesses, did exactly as they wanted. After obtaining their license, they when to the Smithsonian Museum of Natural History, stood in front of their favorite exhibit and declared themselves husband and wife. I think they took a selfie.
Six months later they had a gathering in a local park for immediate family and best friends, catered by Subway. DIL wore my wedding dress. Everyone else dressed nice. Pictures were taken by attendees. No stress, just fun.
Now THAT'S the good stuff! In a museum? That's beautiful :) Out of curiosity, what was their favorite exhibit?
Their favorite exhibit is that of an extinct fish. I can't remember the name.
See how I answered this 10 days late? Special education school life is crazy this time of year, as you probably know. I have to make time to check my personal email.
I second Aaron's question - I'm curious too. The nuptials/celebration event sounded great too.
I'll have to protest - the best wedding ever was my friends' - they approached us (wife and I) about a trip to Hong Kong over Christmas/New Years a (large) number of years back - oh yes we were in!
On the flight over they told us that they had arranged to get married in HK (civil ceremony) and we were the witnesses! And that is what happened.
They just couldn't justify the cost of a wedding with 'x' persons attending most of whom they hardly knew. The wedding announcement was mailed from HK to the potential invitee list and because no one was there no one got their knickers in a twist because no one got invited/attended - brilliant!
Personally we (wife and I) self-catered our wedding at my wife's parent place -they had a 1 acre property out in the country - as far as I was concerned a good time was had by all. And that happened 35+ years ago.
My advice to all the younger folks heading for nuptials (rarely heeded) - Elope!
Keep the cash and spend it on yourselves, down payment on a home, a trip , retirement savings - you pick - do not feed the wedding industry monster! A few folks will be miffed for a short while but the ones who truly care about you will accept your decision - the ones who don't ... well maybe ... they should fall off the list.
Haha ok I concede! That IS better than my story... How did they work out? Are they still together?
yes they are!
That's beautiful :)